Hazan & Shaver[1] have identified four intimate adult attachment styles. It can be helpful to relate this to ourselves and our partner when there’s been betrayal or a breach of trust.

The four attachment styles are: secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant and fearful-avoidant.

They can be described as follows:

1. Securely attached: These adult partners will generally be trusting, trustworthy, available to their partner, and have a balanced healthy self-esteem. Generally, they do not fear abandonment, don’t expect to be rejected, or fear they might lose love. Thus, they accept, and are comfortable with, themselves, and they let their partner be themselves as well. They view themselves and their partner in a realistic way, and are optimistic about the life they share. Finally, they are able to balance their need for independence with a healthy need for intimacy.

2. Anxious-preoccupied: These partners worry that their partners will abandon or…

In Numerology the Tarot Card representing the year 2022 is:

‘The Lovers’

Key 6:

The Message: Love Relationships. Partnerships. Family. Co-operation.

 

What could make you feel more connected and loved by your partner? 

 

‘Partnership is giving, taking, learning, teaching, offering the greatest possible benefit while doing the least possible harm.’― Octavia E. Butler,

The Lovers are an obvious reference to partnership and marriage. encompassing all pairs of opposites: Male and female. It is the self, independence and unity.

But it is not just about physical relationships but about the inner synthesis, between opposites, that has to occur before it happens with another being.

Balanced relationships or enlightened ones, come when first we love ourselves and act, at all times, as integrated and whole beings, for it is by acquiring perfect equilibrium and inner unity, that we can truly merge with another with integrity…