Be Honest: Autistic vs Neurotypical Honesty

Autistic Science Person

[For people who don’t know, the term allistic means anyone who is not autistic.]

I’ve learned a lot recently after asking allistic people on twitter what they truly want to hear from other people when allistic people say “be honest.” In short, most of them want a very specific “type” of honesty. At least, neurotypical people may consider this honesty.

Neurotypical Honesty

Depending on the context, a neurotypical person may want the sugar-coated truth. Other times, they may want more honesty or honesty without the sugarcoating if you’re a close friend. Other times, they want to be supported and encouraged, or reassured about a choice they made.

I’ve learned that most of the time, neurotypical people don’t really want honesty. They want curated honesty. They don’t want the first thoughts that come into your head. They want a rephrased “nice” version, which to me, changes the interpretation of those real…

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A Reason to Celebrate!

Epilepsy Talk

Epilepsy Talk has just surpassed 3,000 visitors a day.

And that’s because of YOU!

Your wisdom, compassion and caring…

Sharing your experiences, so that other members know they’re not alone.

We don’t have all of the answers. But we sure can help one another.

That’s why we’re here.

That’s why I treasure each and every one of you.

And that’s why Epilepsy Talk has become a destination.

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The time … I realized maybe I don’t have it *that* bad?

Ellie the Crunch

So last night we went out with 2 other couples. Was a last minute thing.

Where we live there are a lot of Jewish young couples and they all know each other.

The restaurant that was picked was full of these couples and it was basically one big party.

Our table had 3 couples:

An extremely wealthy, smart, self made woman with her husband (who was actually related to me).

A horny jeweler married to a girl 10 years younger. His wealth level is not completely known but he is definitely doing ok with a $180k watch at his wrist.

And husband and I.

We were probably the least “wealthy” for not saying the in other words.

The wives were wearing both very expensive jewelry, had perfectly manicured hands.

I was wearing my Zanetti shoes which used to impress people, lol, not in this group of people.

I have some…

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“I’m Just Tired”: The Truth

Me and My Mental Health Matters

Please be aware that some of the content may be triggering. Please take care 💚

I say to you I’m tired. And I am. I’m tired of life. I’m tired of my head. I’m tired of everything I cannot change. I’m tired of fighting.

I say I’m tired. And I am. But I’m hiding behind it. I’m not sure what I feel. I don’t have the capacity to know or understand my feelings so I’m tired will have to do as I’m too tired to work it out.

I’m tired. I’m exhausted. My body and mind don’t want to work. My head is thumping. My limbs are aching. Sleep doesn’t help. I want to be in bed. I want to give up. I want to hide away.

I’m tired. Of being a burden. Of being a failure. Of being a no good human being. Of being the worst of everything…

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Some Thoughts on Broken Trust

Don't Lose Hope

“Trust starts with truth, and ends with truth.”

1. If you lie and choose to break your partner’s trust, he or she may never fully trust you again. The damage will depend on how major the lie is … But often the effects will be serious and long-lasting …

For how can you determine if they’re lying in the future? You were hood-winked in the past so it could happen once again.

2. Once trust has been broken, things can never be the same. There will always be a tiny hairline crack in the mirror. You can’t reverse the damage, or eradicate all traces. The facts are still the facts, and the memories remain.

3. Betrayal stops a person from equating trust and love. Now, trust has to be earned, and it must be verified. A person has to prove they are worthy of your love. Saying “

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God’s Presence

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Exodus 33

14 He said, “My presence will go with you, and I’ll give you rest.”
15 Then Moses told the LORD, “If your presence does not go with us, don’t bring us up from here. 16 Otherwise, how shall it be known that your people and I have received favor from you, unless you go with us and that we, your people and I, are distinguished from all the people on the surface of the earth?”
17 The LORD told Moses, “I’ll do the very thing that you have said, because you have found favor in my sight and I know you by name.” 18 Then Moses said, “Please show me your glory.”

There isn’t a video I can think of that is more suited to the reading above than this one.

As you listen to the video you will hear it is a song of praise and testimony especially in the chorus where we not only seek his grace, we also ask his glory to fall upon us asking I’m to guide us

The time … I will tell you about my day.

Ellie the Crunch

So today started wrong.

It’s Wednesday, recycle trash day.

I started putting all my boxes outside carefully hiding the 50 magazine that I was throwing out as we had another 50 in the living room. If husband saw them he would have brought them back in.

I was out in my PJs with a winter coat on top (mind you May mornings in NY feel like full winter) when I hear my husband roar my name.

He asked me to drive him to the station. I yelled back I had to change and will take him.

Time 3 1/2 seconds to change at least my pants as I don’t like to wear outside (car etc) what I wear to bed, and I was in the car.

And there it started.

“You have zero consideration”

“I am tired of not being respected”

And other angry words in the same lines.


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D’Amore Mental Health —

Survivors Blog Here Mental Health Collaborative

Jane from D’Amore Mental Health contacted me and asked if I would include their organization on my resources page. With May being Mental Health Awareness Month, I can’t think of a better time to add a new Mental Health resource. Photo by RODNAE Productions on Child Abuse and Childhood trauma can impact a person […]

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Today Is Fibromyalgia Awareness Day —

Survivors Blog Here Mental Health Collaborative

A few weeks ago I participated in a collaborative post for Fibro Directory and I wanted to share the complete post. I’ve also included some additional posts from other great bloggers who posted their Fibromyalgia tips. What is Fibromyalgia? It’s a difficult question and even more difficult to diagnose. If you feel you have Fibromyalgia […]

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Wordless Wednesday*Spring/Summer Flowers —

Survivors Blog Here Mental Health Collaborative

I’m so glad you stopped by today, I love seeing your smiling face and hearing your comments. Here are more signs of Spring around our house. The Lilly’s are producing more flowers this year than ever before. I don’t know if it’s because they are more mature or if the winter storm had something to […]

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